Beware! These Are the Most Dangerous Men to Date

The Kind of Men to Avoid Dating

When it comes to dating and relationships, I don’t play sides—I’m impartial. I’m a woman’s woman and a man’s man. I know when to lean into my femininity, and I know when to flex my masculinity. Truth be told, I carry both. As much as I am fully woman, I’m also fully man. I am wo-man.

As a little girl, I remember sitting on the edge of the bed, staring hard at Jimmy Swaggart as he preached fire and brimstone. He painted hell so vividly that I could feel the flames licking at my feet. Fear lived in me because of that man’s sermons. I was afraid of hell. This is why I've been married five times. Indoctrination is real that it's scary especially now.

Fast forward to adulthood—fresh off an almost-divorce and barely stepping foot in a church—I found myself dabbling again. I tried this majority White church, listening to a pastor go on and on about his love for his wife and kids. His devotion made me want to keep coming back. Later, I found myself at a Black church in Hinesville, Georgia, hearing the same kind of love story from another pastor. I got hooked—until I wasn’t. See, I learned something: when people talk too much about something, they’re usually living the opposite.

Jimmy Swaggart? Caught with prostitutes. Became the punchline of SNL (Saturday Night Live). All I can still see is him crying on TV: “Father forgive me for I have sinned.” Let’s be real—he wasn’t sorry for the sin, he was sorry he got caught. Same goes for those two “faithful” pastors bragging about their wives while creeping with side chicks. Yes, they loved their wives—but they loved that side pussy more. Can a man love two women equally at the same time? My masculine and feminine energy both scream: No!

Then, there are the ones who hate their mothers and hate themselves. The Eddie Long types who allegedly preferred penis over pussy but kept women around as props to hide their truth. Same energy as the MAGA men who claim to love women but really want to shackle them like characters in The Handmaid’s Tale. Their doctrine is rooted in control, silencing women while they run free—often with each other.

And let’s not forget Kevin Samuels. In my opinion, he didn’t just dislike Black women—he hated us. It wasn’t only his words, it was his entire energy. The same poison I’ve seen in pulpits, podcasts, and politics. A man that hates his momma also hates himself!

Men to Avoid:

The Kind of Men You Must Avoid:

• The Preacher Who Over-Preaches: If he’s constantly bragging about how much he loves his wife, there’s probably a mistress in the wings.

• The “Sorry I Got Caught” Man: He’s not repentant—he’s resentful that his cover got blown.

• The Mama-Hater: If he has deep unresolved issues with his mother, he’ll likely project that hate onto you.

• The Down-Low Pretender: The one who uses women as props while secretly living another life.

• The Control Freak: Men who push doctrines or politics that silence women, limit freedom, and glorify male dominance.

• The Kevin Samuels Archetype: The smooth talker who masks deep hate for Black women in “advice” and “standards.”

✨ Ladies, remember this: your intuition is your power, your boundaries are your protection, and your worth is non-negotiable. Don’t settle for a man who diminishes you—choose the one who matches your light.

Affirmation:

“I honor my worth, I trust my intuition, and I refuse to entertain any man who does not honor my light. I choose love that uplifts, protects, and cherishes me.”

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog. I hope it inspires you to protect your peace and honor your passions.

— Cheron K. Griffin (Madame Butterfly)

"The Marriage Code Cracker"

cheronkgriffin.com

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